I think all of us can safely say we can lack confidence at times. It can be from silly things like asking for another pen in the middle of an exam because yours has run out, or from more serious things such as waiting on blood tests results.
We have a lot going on in each of our lives and at times we don’t want to plunge in at the deep end in case everything goes tits up, am I right?
I’m with a new guy who I’m happy with and I feel comfortable around him, but despite this sometimes I do get shy and lose my confidence. Without getting too graphic, seeing each other naked was pretty nerve racking for me and I had no confidence in that moment because like a lot of people I have issues with how my body looks. I’m not body confident and I admire those who are. I’m not huge but I’m not small either, and I know that it’s only me who can change how I perceive myself. I’m not addressing my weight as such but how I look at myself in the mirror and how I feel inside. I know that my boyfriend likes me for who I am and not what I look like, and that for me is all I could ask for.
What I’m getting at is we ourselves have the power to be confident. For example, if I like how I’ve done my make up and hair one day I will take a picture of myself and think “I looked good today,” and that’s just one of the first steps to building confidence. Don’t be shy to share that selfie on Instagram, if you’re feeling gorgeous then show it to whoever you want to because why the hell not?!
Confidence is attractive for sure, and meeting my boyfriend I had my cheeky side on show where I was confident because I wanted us to flirt and have some fun. I’m not someone who would do this with whoever because I know I’m not this confident all the time, but when you want to get on with someone you put yourself out there in hope of them finding you to be a fun person to be around. If you want to get that persons attention the way you’re likely to do it is by getting your arse in gear and talking to them!
Life will always throw obstacles in your way because nothing is meant to be easy, and why should it? If everything was easy you wouldn’t try hard enough. It’s the same with confidence, you know deep down that there’s a part of you that can do something you just need to take that step and BELIEVE in yourself! Believing is important, and I’m not talking about Santa Clause. By believing in yourself you are confident. If you know that answer in maths but you’re too scared to put your hand up, try! If for some reason it turns out you’re not then we’ll never mind you’ve TRIED and that’s the main thing!
I’m no expert in confidence, as I said earlier daily life makes you face things you’re not confident in doing, but trying is one step forward. A big example for me where I have gained a lot of my confidence is when I first got my job. I wanted a job because I wanted money to do things, but I needed to gain the confidence to apply and sit my interview. I was terrified but you know what I did it because I wanted it so badly! I think if you have an aim and you’re going to stick with it, then you’re prepared to go through anything to get there and that’s what confidence is. I got the job and I was nervous to start but over time I have overcome social anxiety to a large extent because in my job I have to socialise, and you will with pretty much every job. Sometimes throwing yourself in the deep end can do you a lot of good because it certainly did for me.
I don’t know you as an individual, but I can tell you now that there is confidence in everyone. However big or small the issue/event is, you have got that confidence to overcome it. Believe in your capabilities because you’re never dealt with what you can’t handle, and I believe that to be so true. You’re the one living your life, no one else. So if you want to achieve your hopes and dreams you’ve got to do it for yourself because no one else can do it for you, okay?
So put on that skimpy little dress you want to wear on a night out, text that guy/girl first, look on the positive side as much as you can, smile more. Changing your outlook on what’s ahead of you can encourage confidence to grow both mentally and physically, so don’t rule out any dreams no matter how big or small they are.
I believe in you and I know that someday you’ll believe too!